How many times have you been invited to a friend's wedding and been forced to mark 1 on your invitation only to be seated at the very back table with other rando single friends of the bride or groom? Or been the only single adult friend or relative of the bride and been forced out … Continue reading All are Welcome at the Table
"There's plenty of fish in the sea." At this point, my "sea" feels like little more than a puddle.
In those desperate, late night moments when the enemy is trying to ensnare you in his sticky web of lies, God is there to remind you that you are worthy, you are fierce, you are precious, and you are loved. You are worth fighting for.
The irony is that a culture so obsessed with sex can be so desperately lacking in real intimacy.
When you view your years of singleness as no more than a waiting period, you will forfeit so much opportunity to grow.
Singles need to be loved and included just like everyone else, because no one can truly live without intimacy. In some ways, they need communal love even more than others in the church because they do not have a marriage partner.
“God didn’t create marriage to solve your loneliness,” I once heard author Preston Sprinkle say, “He created other people to solve your loneliness.”
“Live your best life now, pursue wholeness and maturity, find your self-worth and identity in Christ and in the community of believers, take advantage of the advantages and opportunities you have as a single person, and eventually, if you do find someone, you will be able to give your whole self to them.”
If you choose to be with someone who does not share the same faith or the same level of faith that you do, you are likely opening yourself up to a lifetime of struggle and frustration.
When we allow God into our lives and we put our faith in Jesus Christ, God takes what once was torn up, beaten, bruised, burned and He makes it new, just like with the land after a wildfire.
As a single person, starting out yet another new year relationshipless and with no prospects of any future relationships, it can be hard to believe that anyone could ever love me. It’s hard to believe that I’m worth it. When I can’t even control myself around some leftover cookies, I feel like I’m utterly hopeless and those thoughts of “why even bother” begin to creep in. Those thoughts that say “you’ll never be pretty enough,” “you’ll never be thin enough,” “you’ll never be enough.” Those are the lies that I try so hard to fight back against. And that fight is impossible without Jesus by my side.