When you aren’t a child/teenager, you aren’t married, and you’re not a mom, where do you fit within God’s community on earth? While I have no doubt that God loves me and that I’m truly not alone in my struggle (since He is always present in my life), I still feel like a square peg trying to find a square hole here on earth.
We see that our neighbor has a nice, new car and we want one as well. We see that our friend just bought a house so we think that we need a house as well in order to be on the same level. Our friends get married so we feel like we need to find someone now in order to measure up. We never want to feel left out or left behind
I have always done what I was supposed to do in order to be the “good girl,” and have remained the definition of single.
It can be difficult to watch all of the resources be put into helping others grow, when you don’t know where you fit. If churches just acknowledged more often that marriage isn’t the best way to be, it’s merely another way to be, then single people may feel less alienated.
It’s difficult to identify the lies if you’re not consciously looking for them, so today I’m going to describe 7 examples of lies that singles commonly believe.
In those desperate, late night moments when the enemy is trying to ensnare you in his sticky web of lies, God is there to remind you that you are worthy, you are fierce, you are precious, and you are loved. You are worth fighting for.
The irony is that a culture so obsessed with sex can be so desperately lacking in real intimacy.
When you view your years of singleness as no more than a waiting period, you will forfeit so much opportunity to grow.
Singles need to be loved and included just like everyone else, because no one can truly live without intimacy. In some ways, they need communal love even more than others in the church because they do not have a marriage partner.
“God didn’t create marriage to solve your loneliness,” I once heard author Preston Sprinkle say, “He created other people to solve your loneliness.”