It can be difficult to watch all of the resources be put into helping others grow, when you don’t know where you fit. If churches just acknowledged more often that marriage isn’t the best way to be, it’s merely another way to be, then single people may feel less alienated.
It’s difficult to identify the lies if you’re not consciously looking for them, so today I’m going to describe 7 examples of lies that singles commonly believe.
"There's plenty of fish in the sea." At this point, my "sea" feels like little more than a puddle.
In those desperate, late night moments when the enemy is trying to ensnare you in his sticky web of lies, God is there to remind you that you are worthy, you are fierce, you are precious, and you are loved. You are worth fighting for.
The irony is that a culture so obsessed with sex can be so desperately lacking in real intimacy.
When you view your years of singleness as no more than a waiting period, you will forfeit so much opportunity to grow.
Singles need to be loved and included just like everyone else, because no one can truly live without intimacy. In some ways, they need communal love even more than others in the church because they do not have a marriage partner.
“God didn’t create marriage to solve your loneliness,” I once heard author Preston Sprinkle say, “He created other people to solve your loneliness.”
“Live your best life now, pursue wholeness and maturity, find your self-worth and identity in Christ and in the community of believers, take advantage of the advantages and opportunities you have as a single person, and eventually, if you do find someone, you will be able to give your whole self to them.”
If you choose to be with someone who does not share the same faith or the same level of faith that you do, you are likely opening yourself up to a lifetime of struggle and frustration.