“God didn’t create marriage to solve your loneliness,” I once heard author Preston Sprinkle say, “He created other people to solve your loneliness.”
“Live your best life now, pursue wholeness and maturity, find your self-worth and identity in Christ and in the community of believers, take advantage of the advantages and opportunities you have as a single person, and eventually, if you do find someone, you will be able to give your whole self to them.”
If you choose to be with someone who does not share the same faith or the same level of faith that you do, you are likely opening yourself up to a lifetime of struggle and frustration.
As a single person, starting out yet another new year relationshipless and with no prospects of any future relationships, it can be hard to believe that anyone could ever love me. It’s hard to believe that I’m worth it. When I can’t even control myself around some leftover cookies, I feel like I’m utterly hopeless and those thoughts of “why even bother” begin to creep in. Those thoughts that say “you’ll never be pretty enough,” “you’ll never be thin enough,” “you’ll never be enough.” Those are the lies that I try so hard to fight back against. And that fight is impossible without Jesus by my side.
Falling to your knees in prayer can be one of the most humbling acts you can participate in, but it's definitely a great way to fend off Satan's lies that can easily take over when you least expect them. Having the word of God planted in your mind and ready to use when needed has been an invaluable resource in fighting off the advances of the enemy.
As single people we are often influenced by the emotional, psychological, and biological drive to be in a romantic relationship... Wearing your helmet by being confident in God’s plan and the facts of your salvation help to protect your mind from the doubt, anger, and bitterness that can then take up residence in your heart if you don't trust in God's promise.
That is what God’s peace does for us. It grounds us in place so that we can stand upright and fight in battle.
The thing is, our singleness could very well be an act of obedience to God’s expectations for this season or for our lifetime.
"So stand strong, with the belt of truth tied around your waist..." Ephesians 6:14
So don’t give up hope completely my dear friends, because God is out there fighting for you and He’s giving us the armor we need to fight alongside Him. We just need to be willing to accept it!